book: The Expanse series

Jun. 16th, 2025 08:41 pm
sistawendy: me looking confident in a black '50s retro dress (mad woman)
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This evening I finished The Expanse, all nine volumes of it. Is it lit'racha? Well, maybe. Is it solid, fairly hard sci-fi? Definitely. Is it readable? Oh em gee! It basically ate my brain for nearly three months. Action! Adventure! Aliens! Intrigue! Lingo! Dangerous women, some with serious mental health issues!

It feels weird to be back, sa sa?
sistawendy: me in my nurse costume looking weirded out (weirded out)
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Tacoma Girl came to the Devil Girl House late yesterday afternoon. She basically hung out for five hours while we chatted, ate my very first (?!) homemade guacamole, and checked out my four new homemade devil girls high up on my living room walls. All my mead and non-dark beer are now just... gone. And then Tacoma Girl proposed going to the Wildrose.

You know I said yes to that. Tacoma Girl hadn't been to the 'Rose on a Saturday night, and she was vexed by the cheeziness of the music and the number of apparent het dudes walking around. As for the former, I've just accepted that the assertion that lesbians have no taste is all too often true. Terrific queer women DJs exist around here and I've met them*, but they never seem to end up at big, regular club nights.

As for the presence of dudes, I'm really reluctant to gatekeep those guys because I've been the target of that kind of thing myself. Trans women avoided the 'Rose entirely before its current ownership bought the place in 2000. The number of men in the joint didn't wreck the vibe for me, but obviously TG has a different take on things.

After the Wildrose I turned Tacoma Girl onto the joy that is Betsutenjin, the tiny ramen joint a block away. Good thing, too, because that was basically dinner and much needed electrolytes.

It's a minor miracle that I'm neither hung over nor low on sleep. I think I hydrated just enough.



*Trinitron comes to mind immediately. Miss Shelrawka is another. I liked Coral Slater, but I think she's moved out of the area.

nunly outings

Jun. 14th, 2025 06:10 am
sistawendy: me in the Mercury's alley with the wind catching my hair (smoldering windblown Merc alley)
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I haven't been silent the last four days because I was in a funk or anything, even if that would be a reasonable supposition. No, I've been out & about.

Thursday: latex dinner. A one-liter beer & schnitzel on Capitol Hill. The organizers were worried that we wouldn't be able to get enough space without a rezzo, but if you get enough rubber-clad freaks together, anything is possible. Yes, eye candy, but also listening to a fellow techie talk about the stress of dealing with a layoff from a certain local tech giant. Oy. I feel you, bro. And if I had any sense I'd get ready.

Speaking of work, I've been caught between the Scylla of security and the Charybdis of customer satisfaction. But I'm not facing it alone, and because I'm a social butterfly I've been made aware of options that I didn't know I had. Excelsior?

My son passed along an invitation to Ex's birthday dinner just hours before I was going to buy groceries to cook dinner for him. Good timing, kiddo. So yesterday he drove me all the way to Chuck's Hop Shop in Seward Park, where apparently they do real food more or less, and talked to Ex & her Mr. Right Now*.

Ex asked me if I was making plans to bug out of the US. Not seriously, I told her. A couple of other things she said prompted me to ask about her anxiety meds. There are things I miss about my ex, but her anxiety disorder is not among them. I'm not proud to say that when I first noticed her being worried & afraid about things that didn't really make sense not long after we met, I snickered at it. I didn't know what it was until years later. Moral: if you're in a new relationship and something seems off, don't ignore it.



*She's been dating him for what, ten years now? Fifteen? I can't even remember. But she really did call him that once.

found: the right Thai place

Jun. 10th, 2025 06:40 am
sistawendy: a cartoon of me saying "Praise Bob!" (prabob)
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Just a few blocks down the hill from the Devil Girl House are five (5) Thai restaurants, a majority of which have disappointed me. I finally got around to trying the fifth and farthest the other day: Kaosamai. They gave me a verbal warning about the spiciness. "Understood", I said, and then proceeded to make myself hiccup with four-star eats. I'll be back.

Nice place! They have a big deck, and it's right next to Nectar.

Saturday club hopping

Jun. 9th, 2025 06:19 am
sistawendy: a cartoon of me in club clothes (dolly)
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I finally made it to the Modular monthly at Substation. Usually it's on a Sunday at 1700, but this time it was on a Saturday at 1900. It's exactly what the name suggests: a bunch of people pushing buttons and tweaking knobs on modular synthesizers. Yeah, you know that crowd was nerdy. And I'm pretty sure I wasn't the only trans lady there.

But did I like the choonz? Quite often, yeah! Honorable mention: local boy EZBOT, who reminded me by turns of Aphex Twin, drum & bass, and several others. I was a little ambivalent about club hopping to the Mercury after two of the eight (!) artists that they had lined up.

So why club hop to the Merc? Caturday, Pride edition, which I used as an excuse to wear my "I [Pride heart] [beaver graphic]" tank top. I was hoping to run into some of the trans girls from the other day. Instead, I saw a lady in a butterfly costume like the ones I saw in Sydney. In a fit of nostalgia, I went over to talk to her. Imagine my surprise when I realized it was Temptress.

Fun fact about me: like my mother, I have the world's worst poker face. I may have looked absolutely horrified at her, but only for a second. Had her vile boyfriend been with her, I wouldn't have even gone over there. I chatted about Sydney, maybe a bit nervously.

Despite being seriously caffeinated, I didn't make it to midnight. I did to a ton of bike riding and chores around the house on Saturday, so I don't feel like too much of a geezer. I have to get the Devil Girl House ready for Tacoma Girl on Saturday. (The joke here is that TG is probably the least judgy person I know.)

a meeting of the minds at the munch

Jun. 6th, 2025 03:03 pm
sistawendy: a butterfly in the style of a street sign (butterfly)
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I went to the women's munch at the Wildrose last night. Nothing unusual there, but who I ran into was: a table full of trans women in their late twenties. Trans women besides me are a regular feature at this munch, but they don't show up in a group and they're not especially young.

It's noteworthy for me because that's a trans age group that I don't typically spend much time with. There are the folks closer to my age and the teens at Lambert House, the Mercury, or (ahem) out & about, but trans women around my son's age are not the ones I usually run into. They had much to tell me:
  • There's a facial feminization surgeon around here, Dr. Liu, who does excellent work. That's something to think about if I'm ever an heiress.
  • There's been some drink-spiking at Pony lately. Uh, yikes! One or two of the assembled dolls weren't pleased with how it had been handled. That's a damn shame, because I'm one of many queers I know who otherwise love that place.
They seemed so... together. So much more than I was at their age, struggling mightily to be someone I'm not. From talking with them, at least briefly, you'd never guess that we're a community under seige.

And I'd also like to say how impressed I am with the current Washington State Ms. Leather and her partner, a former Ms. Leather, who organize this and many other shindigs. They work hard at pulling all of us non-cis-men into leather activities. Aside from warm fuzzies, there's nothing in it for them, really.

Nun remembers how to sleep.

Jun. 5th, 2025 09:51 am
sistawendy: me in the Mercury's alley with the wind catching my hair (smoldering windblown Merc alley)
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At the risk of jinxing things, I'm here to say that I've been sleeping unusually well lately. This is despite the days being nearly as long as they get around here above 47°N, and The Situation.

So why now? Well, it seems to be an annual cycle for me. My sleep sucks in February and March, but then gets better from there. The sunlight may indeed be part of it. I did recently turn off the HVAC for the whole house because it's the time of year when open windows do the job. Maybe less noise helps.

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